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Whether you are married, single, in a relationship, parent, working full time, or even retired, it can be hard finding time just for you. Many of us, especially women, can be so busy looking out for everybody else that we forget about our own needs.  Meeting the demands of other-half, children, grandchildren, parents, relatives and even friends can take its toll. Added to that can be guilt that we are somehow being selfish if we do what we want to do. But unless […]

We all want deep inner happiness. We all want to wake up every morning feeling really good; to walk through the day with joy in our step and a sense of contentment in our hearts.   Sadly however, the reality is often somewhat different. You may feel happy one minute because the sun is shining and all is good in your world; but then something happens in your circumstances, someone says or does something that upsets you and your mood changes. In an instant, […]

What is Mindfulness? “Mindfulness means paying attention in a particular way; on purpose, in the present moment, and non-judgmentally.”  – Jon Kabat-Zinn   Breaking that sentence down, the three main concepts of Mindfulness are awareness, being non-judgmental and learning to live in the present. Let’s look at these concepts in some detail. Awareness The aim is to increase awareness of what is going on both internally (our thoughts and emotions), and externally (the world around us). We are then better […]

You know what it’s like when you find yourself getting really wound up, frustrated and angry because of someone else’s behaviour? It might be something simple and annoying like when you’re driving and someone cuts you up as they are overtaking. Or perhaps a friend said something hurtful, or treated you really badly. Maybe a colleague or family member has misplaced your trust and you feel cheated and let down. Whatever the occasion that led up to it, the result […]

I’m not one for New Year’s resolutions as they tend to lead to failure, which can have a negative effect on your outlook, which in turn affects every other area of your life. I am, however, a great believer in reviewing your life, setting some goals and actions plans to make those goals a reality. But first of all, you need to get your mind-set right. If you find that you keep repeating the same old patterns which result in […]

We all want deep inner happiness. We want to feel peace and calm, regardless of what is going on around us. The reality is that we are often riddled with grief, guilt, anxiety, stress, fear and sometimes depression, struggling each day with our emotional roller coaster. Whether you are looking for a successful relationship, a more fulfilling career, financial security or better health, the bottom line is that you want to feel good. But happiness can be fleeting. You feel […]

A symbolic wedding is a ceremony that has no legal status. That means that there is more flexibility and in fact pretty much anything is possible. Couples may choose to have a symbolic wedding because: They want to do the legal bit first with the registrar at the town hall. Then at a later date, have a symbolic wedding with all their guests, as if it was the real thing. This means there are no time constraints and greater flexibility […]

Renewing wedding vows has become popular in recent years. If approached with care and thoughtfulness, a renewal of vows or celebration of your relationship ceremony can help to cement the bond of love which already exists between you.   You may choose to renew your vows for a number of reasons: You were married in a different country and now wish to celebrate with family and friends who were not able to attend the first time around You want to celebrate […]

Do you ever have the feeling that the world is against you? Does it sometimes feel as though everything that can go wrong, does go wrong? And then you get those moments when everything falls into place and you feel that all is good in your world again. The British Liberal Politician Herbert Samuel said “The world is like a mirror; frown at it and it frowns at you. Smile and it smiles too.” In other words, We project onto […]

In last month’s blog I suggested a model for doing an End-of-Year Review. The idea behind that exercise was to recognise all the good things that happened, to learn from the more challenging moments and to realise that we have greater inner resources to overcome life’s difficulties than maybe we thought we had. This month I am going to suggest a way to set yourself up for having a really good year ahead. Sitting back and waiting to see what […]

Once upon a time there was a beautiful princess who lived in a castle far, far away. One day she went for a walk in the forest and came across a huge fire-breathing dragon that blocked her path. The princess screamed for help and low and behold, along came a brave knight who drew his sword and slayed the dragon. The princess was then able to continue happily along on her journey. We are all familiar with these fairy-tales of […]

September is the time for change. Holiday makers are returning; children are going back to school and students are flying the nest for college or university. It is the time to get back in the garden after the heat of the summer; it’s the time to clear away the cobwebs that have gathered in the corners of the room. Maybe you’re starting to think about re-joining the gym and what classes you will take. Maybe there is a new project […]

Grief can take many different forms Whether that is the end of a relationship, loss of property, loss of mobility or mental faculties or the death of someone close to us, the stages of grieving that we can typically go through are similar. Grief can be overwhelming and at the time, it may feel like it will never end. But if we understand that there are typically stages that a bereaved person often goes through, we can get some reassurance […]

Valentine’s Day can be a difficult time of the year if you are single. However, I am a strong believer that every situation can be an opportunity for growth and personal development if we recognise it as such. Perhaps now is a good time for you to focus on who you are, what you are looking for and most importantly, loving yourself. Yes I know that probably sounds a rubbish suggestion when what you really want is a hot date, […]