We all want deep inner happiness. We want to feel peace and calm, regardless of what is going on around us. The reality is that we are often riddled with grief, guilt, anxiety, stress, fear and sometimes depression, struggling each day with our emotional roller coaster.
Whether you are looking for a successful relationship, a more fulfilling career, financial security or better health, the bottom line is that you want to feel good.
But happiness can be fleeting. You feel happy one minute because the sun is shining, you are having fun with friends or you are watching a feel-good movie and at that moment, all is well in your world.
Then something happens in your circumstances, your mood changes and happiness is gone, perhaps leaving you feeling sad, lonely, anxious or depressed.
It can be as simple as an unkind word that is spoken or hearing some sad news; or maybe it’s an accumulation of events that lead to your change of mood. Whatever the perceived cause, it can be very difficult to shake off.
Wouldn’t it be great to find the kind of inner happiness that doesn’t depend on what is going on around you, to take control of your emotions and become balanced, harmonious and better able to cope with life’s challenges?
Imagine waking up each morning feeling really glad to be alive and drifting off to sleep at night with genuine contentment; dealing with challenges in a calm, collected frame of mind, knowing that you are creating a beautiful and fulfilling life. But how do we do that?
Here are four strategies for having deep inner happiness that doesn’t go away with the change of circumstances:
1. Recognise that you are responsible for your own happiness
No one else can make you happy. It is a mind-set. You can have the most attentive, adorable partner in the world, and still not be happy. Consequently, no one else can make you unhappy. When we understand that, we realise that actually we have more control than we thought we had.
2. Watch your thoughts and words
We create our own reality usually without even being aware that we are doing it. Phrases such as ‘knowing my luck…’ and ‘I can’t do that’ have the effect of limiting us. They hold us back and form our reality. When we become aware of those spoken and unspoken phrases, we can turn them around and start creating a new reality. For example, if you hear yourself thinking ‘It doesn’t work for me’, try re-phrasing it to something like ‘I’ve tried it in the past and haven’t had much success, but I’m willing to give it another go. Perhaps it will work this time.’
3. Learn the art of gratitude
When you focus on what you perceive to be negative or bad in your life, you become attached to it and stuck in that ‘bad’ place. You start to expect bad things to happen and consequently they do! By consciously making a shift and giving thought to all that is good, you can break the cycle and actually turn your world around.
We become stressed, angry or upset because of the ‘stuff’ we tell ourselves. Our thoughts run away with themselves and are often not related to the actual event that lead to the negative emotion in the first place. By bringing ourselves back to the present, to the Now moment, we can often stop the escalation of negative thoughts, which enables us to let go of the emotion.
Want some help?
Using a variety of skills and techniques including guided meditation, visualisations, energy healing and EFT in addition to extensive coaching skills and experience, I can help you overcome the emotional roller coaster, and begin to find deep and lasting happiness in all areas of your life.
I have a Diploma in Personal Performance Coaching (merit), I am a certified Relationship Coach for Singles and have many years experience coaching clients through a wide variety of work, relationship and other life circumstances. I teach meditation to groups and individuals. I am a Reiki Healer. I have a 1st Class Hons degree in Theology, MA in Pastoral Studies and Certificate in Counselling.
If you would like to find deep and lasting happiness in your life, work and relationships, contact me now.
I look forward to hearing from you.