Symbolic Weddings

A symbolic wedding is a ceremony that has no legal status. That means that there is more flexibility and in fact pretty much anything is possible. Couples may choose to have a symbolic wedding because: They want to do the legal bit first with the registrar at the town hall. Then at a later date, have a symbolic wedding with all their guests, as if it was the real thing. This means there are no time constraints and greater flexibility to make their special day uniquely reflect their personalities and wishes.   They are getting legally married in a different...

Planning to Renew your Wedding Vows?

Renewing wedding vows has become popular in recent years. If approached with care and thoughtfulness, a renewal of vows or celebration of your relationship ceremony can help to cement the bond of love which already exists between you.   You may choose to renew your vows for a number of reasons: You were married in a different country and now wish to celebrate with family and friends who were not able to attend the first time around You want to celebrate a special anniversary by re-affirming your love for one another You have been through some difficulties together and want to...

Are You A Cause of Effect-Type Person?

Do you ever have the feeling that the world is against you? Does it sometimes feel as though everything that can go wrong, does go wrong? And then you get those moments when everything falls into place and you feel that all is good in your world again. The British Liberal Politician Herbert Samuel said "The world is like a mirror; frown at it and it frowns at you. Smile and it smiles too." In other words, We project onto the world what is going on inside our heads. It follows then, that if we can change what's going on...

A Fresh Start And A Beautiful New Beginning

In last month's blog I suggested a model for doing an End-of-Year Review. The idea behind that exercise was to recognise all the good things that happened, to learn from the more challenging moments and to realise that we have greater inner resources to overcome life's difficulties than maybe we thought we had. This month I am going to suggest a way to set yourself up for having a really good year ahead. Sitting back and waiting to see what life throws at us is one way of being, but it is certainly not my style. By incorporating a little...

Time To Slay Your Demons

Once upon a time there was a beautiful princess who lived in a castle far, far away. One day she went for a walk in the forest and came across a huge fire-breathing dragon that blocked her path. The princess screamed for help and low and behold, along came a brave knight who drew his sword and slayed the dragon. The princess was then able to continue happily along on her journey. We are all familiar with these fairy-tales of old from which the term ‘Slay the dragon” originates. Nowadays the term usually refers to problems or concerns that threaten...

New Term – New Start

September is the time for change. Holiday makers are returning; children are going back to school and students are flying the nest for college or university. It is the time to get back in the garden after the heat of the summer; it’s the time to clear away the cobwebs that have gathered in the corners of the room. Maybe you’re starting to think about re-joining the gym and what classes you will take. Maybe there is a new project at work you have to get your teeth into. Whatever your age or circumstances, the chances are that September is...

In Search of Inner Happiness

We all want deep inner happiness. We want to feel peace and calm, regardless of what is going on around us. The reality is that we are often riddled with grief, guilt, anxiety, stress, fear and sometimes depression, struggling each day with our emotional roller coaster. Whether you are looking for a successful relationship, a more fulfilling career, financial security or better health, the bottom line is that you want to feel good. But happiness can be fleeting. You feel happy one minute because the sun is shining, you are...

Bereavement – What Is Normal?

Grief can take many different forms Whether that is the end of a relationship, loss of property, loss of mobility or mental faculties or the death of someone close to us, the stages of grieving that we can typically go through are similar. Grief can be overwhelming and at the time, it may feel like it will never end. But if we understand that there are typically stages that a bereaved person often goes through, we can get some reassurance that we are not alone in this and that it will get easier. The Grieving Process There is no ‘right’...

Surviving Valentine’s Day If You Are Single

Valentine's Day can be a difficult time of the year if you are single. However, I am a strong believer that every situation can be an opportunity for growth and personal development if we recognise it as such. Perhaps now is a good time for you to focus on who you are, what you are looking for and most importantly, loving yourself. Yes I know that probably sounds a rubbish suggestion when what you really want is a hot date, or better still, someone to love you. But bear with me.... Learning to really love you is a vital step...